I’ve had several interviews recently in which the demise of chivalry has been a concern as well as the overall the quality of single men. I say don’t hate on the men. We’re all doing our best. HOWEVER, sometimes chivalry does feel scarce. And I wonder what the problem is. Did feminism kill chivalry?
In any case, I’d like to breathe some life back into chivalry.
Perhaps there are guys out there wondering about chivalry—i.e. how to be chivalrous, is it necessary? why do men have to do EVERYTHING when it comes to dating?—let me say this: basic chivalry is easy (you’re not taking a bullet for her for christ’s sake) and goes a long way. We’re talking Courtesy 101. You barely have to do anything to pass.
Do I swoon when a guy opens a door for me? Yes. Do I love it when he walks on the street side of the sidewalk? Absolutely. Does he increase his chances exponentially of a second date (if he wants one) if he stands up when I get up from the table? You betcha. Don’t overthink this one guys. Just do.
An interesting take on the chivalrous male/feminist woman perspective. Personally, I’ve never known any women to say any of these things on the feminist side. I agree with the male perspective in this article for the most part, though the tone is weird and condescending sometimes. But the sum up is right on:
A general rule of thumb to keep in mind when dealing with the fairer (not weaker) sex: Treat them as you would want them to treat you. Don’t baby her or treat her like a child; simply be there for her as you would a good friend and everything should be fine.
More questions men might have about CHIVALRY:
But what about feminism and equality and all that?
Uh, well, I hold doors for and am, in general, very polite to most strangers around me, regardless of gender, race, political affiliation, consumption of animal products, how their pay compares to mine, etc. etc.
How come women don’t do these things for men on a date?
Do you want us to? I think you would hate it if I stood up at the table when you go to the bathroom. I’ve been on dates during which I’ve tried to hold the door for a guy and it was kinda awkward. Meaning, he looked at me like “Why are you doing that?” When walking through a door, it can’t be an equal step across the threshold unless the door frame is really wide. Someone has to take the lead and the other person has to follow. Why not take the guesswork out? Practical chivalry. I love it.