A recent email from eHarmony featured a quick story called Men – 5 Simple Ways to Charm Your Date.
The first tip was to surprise your date with a CD of her favorite music. Love this idea. And I’m lucky to have received music from guys I’ve dated—a CD left on my windshield in the middle of a rainy night (awwww) and free MP3 downloads. (Men really love to bring over their hard drive and offer up all their music in this sort of crazy cockfight with John Cusack circa High Fidelity when he detailed the labor of love that it is to make a mix tape. If only he’d had digital then.) But I have to say, these song offerings have always been less about me and my tastes and more about him and his tastes.
Not that I’m complaining. I’ve been introduced to amazing bands I love dearly, and I think those guys truly had the best of intentions and were just trying to impress. And that’s endearing. But I’m into this idea of a CD of my music. It shows he’s listening, taking a few mental notes, understanding.
So yes, a CD of your lady’s music. Love it. And sure, throw some of your songs in there, too. I think it provides for a nice mix. Two songs to avoid:
1. Robin Thicke’s Sex Therapy (Remix) Feat. Ludacris
Sample lyric: “When it’s the right time, what it taste like, Gimme a taste test and Ima get you. Got the banana, now let me split you. Ha!”
2. Trey Songz’s: Reinvented Sex Feat. Usher and Keri Hilson
Sample lyric: “… got that oven pre-heated. Trey invented sex, but he ain’t teach you how to eat it. On ya back now, spread it out now. Which one of ya’ll? Which two of ya’ll? Which two of ya’ll goin home with Usherrrr?”
I heard them both today and laughed out loud the entire time. I blushed a little, too. What is up with these lyrics? Why is nothing left to the imagination? Is Usher trying to outdo Ludacris? Is there a R&B/rap battle going on I don’t know about? Is this what the kids are listening to now?
“Lets drank, you the one to please, Ludacris fill cups like double d’s. Me and Ush once more and we leave em dead, we want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed to say…”